“That Would Be On You.” Dylan Mulvaney’s Disgusting Emotional Manipulation.

​Trigger Warning: This essay discusses suicide, mental health, emotional abuse and domestic violence.

Y’all know I don’t like Dylan Mulvaney.

And that’s not because I’m a TERF (or, as I like to call myself, a STEF or “Some Trans Exclusionary Feminist”). My dislike of Mulvaney goes WELL beyond trans issues and into territory that involves Mulvaney’s deliberate emotional abuse of female critics.

Last September Dylan Mulvany made a Tiktok video that was a response to a female comedian who goes by @slxthkween who was parodying Mulvaney’s “Days of Girlhood” Tiktok series.

Mulvaney was, at the time, already a huge public figure with a massive following in the millions.

And yes, public figures get mocked if they are controversial (and Dylan Mulvaney is very very controversial).

So I’m going to react to Dylan Mulvaney’s disgusting response video. In this video Dylan Mulvaney decides to use very abusive, manipulative techniques to try to silence a female critic.

I know that many young girls and women watch Dylan’s videos. I need these people to know that what Dylan is saying in this video is not okay.

Let’s get into it.

Dylan starts the video by stitching @slxthkween’s video. Dylan then says this, after showing @slxthkween’s (public) face:
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Ah, yes. The whole “Let me just winkingly suggest that my MILLIONS OF FOLLOWERS dox a female critic of mine who has a tiny platform on Tiktok and Youtube.” LOL.

Yeah, we see what you’re doing here Dylan. And it’s a form of abuse. It’s a form of trying to silence your critic by asking that people expose her private information.

(BTW, Dylan’s huge mob kicked @slxthkween off Tiktok so she’s just on Youtube now.)
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​Clearly Dylan has a fantastic life. Cool. So @slxthkween isn’t exactly punching down here with her parodies that reach a few thousand followers a month compared to Dylan’s millions. Dylan is a huge celebrity. @slxthkween is just a small female creator on Tiktok whose videos have less views than pizza-chewing ASMR.

But Dylan thinks coming down hard on this woman and not big scary MALE transphobes like Matt Walsh, Ben Shapiro, and Michael Knowles is more important.

I get it. It hurts more when guys punch back. Fighting women is easier.
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​She does actually. It’s called the First Amendment. And Dylan is a public figure. Parody is very much a protected form of free speech, especially for public figures.

And frankly, if Dylan gets to mock the female identity (and, as many trans women are (quietly) arguing, mock the trans female identity) …. then @slxthkween gets to mock Dylan.
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​MAYBE PEOPLE LIKE VIDEOS NOW HONEY BUT YOUR FAME ISN’T GONNA LAST FOREVER.

Phew, the projection is strong here. Feeling some existential nervousness here Dylan? Misogyny masquerading as trans activism is going to have a very short shelf life and judging from the Bud Light controversy, your fifteen minutes may be on minute fourteen now. I understand.
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​Nope. Nope. Nope. No.

We’re not doing this.

We are absolutely NOT fucking doing this.

We are not threatening suicide as a way to emotionally abuse someone. That is a textbook example of coercion in order to gain control over someone else’s actions.

Domestic violence organizations across the globe regularly list suicide threats as a form of abuse often used to keep domestic abuse victims from leaving their abusers. (Both genders are guilty of this type of abuse). Hell, just go to the National Domestic Violence Hotline website. It’s right there on the damn page: “When Your Partner Threatens Suicide.”

But what if your partner regularly threatens suicide, particularly whenever you’re not doing something he or she wants you to do, or when you’re trying to leave the relationship? First, understand that this is a form of emotional abuse: your partner is trying to manipulate you by playing on your feelings of love and fear for them.

For us oldheads in the audience who have been around a few decades and can sniff out blatant emotional manipulation, Dylan’s doe-eyed toxicity of “My suicide would be on YOU!” can seem eye-rollingly dumb.

For Dylan’s extremely young, mostly teen audience on Tiktok however… this suicide threat probably carries a punch. It is dangerous.
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Oooo, is that another threat Dylan?

Yes, yes, … I believe it is. That is Dylan threatening a very small female creator on Tiktok.
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Dylan, btw, does not own Tiktok. But Dylan is very wealthy, very influential, and has a whole hate mob that is itching to do Dylan’s bidding…. especially when it comes to silencing women who refuse to shut up when people with penises tell them to shut up.

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​Honestly, what’s driving most women- including most trans women — crazy is how very artificial Dylan’s view of womanhood is. Dylan is portraying womanhood in the most stereotypical, shallow, misogynistic way possible.

Nobody cares that a trans woman wants to be perky and glamorous on social media. People love Nikki Tutorials. Women have no problem with Gigi Gorgeous. Why? Because neither Nikki Tutorials nor Gigi Gorgeous are grotesque parodies of women. They’re just women who are trans. And they certainly don’t pretend to be girls!

The trans issue, however, is tangential. The real problem is that Dylan thinks that threatening female critics, calling them “evil” and saying that any suicide is the fault of these female critics is fine. And Dylan, as a massively influential public figure (and ADULT despite the whole “Days of Girlhood” garbage), is telling children that this behavior is okay.

Nope.

It’s called emotional abuse, and it’s not okay.
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