Women Are Going on a Sex Strike and We Don't Even Know It

Straight women are on strike.

If you’re a straight liberal woman, you probably have had a lot of male allies in your mentions the last couple of weeks saying “Women need to go on a sex strike until ‘Roe’ is restored!”

Here’s the thing though. Straight women have already been on sex strike for a few years now. In fact, most straight women seem to be on a general relationship-with-men strike since at least 2017.

So why exactly?

Let’s look at the stats. Marriage rates in America suddenly dropped in 2017–2018 after being stable for decades.

US marriages were stable during the Great Recession in 2008. US marriages were stable after 9/11. US marriages had been stable during all sorts of national crisis.

Yet, in 2017–2018, marriages declined rapidly.
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Gee, I wonder why? What happened in 2016–2017–2018 to make people lose faith in marriages?

First of all, let’s look at the 2016 US presidential election. The 2016 Trump-Clinton contest was a referendum on male rage towards women. Trump, an accused sexual predator who was caught confessing to SA on tape, treated women in the most foul way imaginable. Trump channeled male rage against women effectively. He whipped up his male supporters against Hillary Clinton, who was his opponent. Hillary Clinton was the first female presidential candidate nominated by a major party in the US. Trump was able to boost male rage so well that Trump defied all odds and win the 2016 election.

Make no mistake. Trump would not have won the 2016 election if Hillary Clinton had been a man. The 2020 election proved that. Biden, if anything, had MORE baggage than Clinton. He was old, he was gaffe-prone, his son had a drug history…. but Biden won in 2020. Hillary Clinton lost in 2016.

Trump won in 2016 because of men. Pew Research breaks it down pretty well. More women voted for Clinton in 2016 than Romney in 2012. Romney lost of course, but so did Clinton. What was the difference?

The difference was men.

Men voted for Obama in 2012. Obama won.

Men voted for Trump in 2016. Trump won.

Despite Clinton making some (expected) inroads with women, Trump won because the vast majority of male voters wanted Trump. Trump won men by 11 points.

It was a stunning upset.

​I remember women everywhere, even women who hadn’t voted (don’t get me started THERE! But I digress) were horrified that Trump had won.

After the 2016 election American women turned to men and said “My God, you really do hate us, don’t you?”
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In straight culture, men and women basically have stuck together throughout all crises. There have been world wars, 9/11, recessions and depressions but we have had each other’s backs. I don’ think straight women ever REALLY lost faith in men. Not really.

Not until the 2016 election.

Marriages dived in the succeeding years, starting in 2017. Marriages are still plummeting to this day, in 2022.
Men now, in 2022, are more likely to be single than women. According to Pew Research, a record number of men are single and either living with a parent or simply living alone.

Time Magazine wrote an article on the “30-year decrease in the rate of coupling.” (It’s not just marriage, it’s “coupling” in general).

Several sociologists are interviewed about why men are more likely to be single than women now, even though studies show that men are more likely to be looking for partners than women. They discuss the usual factors like how women are graduating from college at higher rates so they have higher salaries while men are unable to attain enough financial stability to get married. Women having higher education and salaries than men in the 21st century has been mentioned before, but that explanation seems a bit weak. Women college graduates have outnumbered male college graduates since 1990. Yet marriages still continued through the nineties and the early 21st century.

So why have marriages suddenly gone down now? Who should we blame for that?

Frankly, I’m still pointing the finger at the 2016 election. And it looks like at least a couple of sociologists are slowly moving in that direction as well, according to Time Magazine.
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​University of Virginia sociology professor W. Bradford Wilcox agrees: “You get women who are relatively liberal, having gone to college, and men who are relatively conservative, still living in a working class world, and that can create a kind of political and cultural divide that makes it harder for people to connect romantically as well.”

It’s not unusual for men and women with differing political views to stay in happy marriages. Before 2016 however, people who disagreed about politics in the US just disagreed. That was it.
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​Now, in today’s political environment, conservative men have become violent. Women are right to be hesitant before they involve themselves romantically with conservative men.

Men being single is bad news.

For men. 

Any medical statistician can tell you that single men have shorter lifespans. Married men who have diabetes, heart disease or even cancer have better rates of survival than single or divorced men. Men who live alone have higher markers for inflammation and heart disease than married men (or single women).
So yeah, if you think women should protest the overturning of “Roe” by going on a sex strike…. don’t worry. It’s already happening and apparently has been happening since 2016. We women have already lost all faith in men.
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But will making men feel increasingly lonely change anything? Or will men just get more bitter? Who knows?
Frankly though, if straight men want women to have more faith in them as romantic partners…. men have to start behaving better. Period.